Practice Dating: Go Shopping

Is the complicated search for the perfect love match equivalent to the search for the perfect outfit to wear on multiple occasions? There seem to be many parallels.
In both cases, there are comparable stages. In the art of shopping one must undergo the sometimes enjoyable yet dreadful practice of window shopping. This means that the so called shopper is only, at least for the time being, able to admire the would-be perfect outfits without actually acquiring them for his/her personal collection. This practice implies, of course, that one must first visit a nearly insane amount of stores in order to find possible options. Said options must have separate pieces that fit nicely with each other while also fitting flawlessly on our body once we put it on. In the same way, one tends to look for a perfect person who is to become the object of our affection. That person must possess the ideal set of characteristics that fit immaculately in a package. The search for that person takes place at countless locations and at many different times. This search is sometimes intentional and others unintentional but always unconsciously conscious.
Subsequently, one must make sure the outfit is available for sale since some stores do sell out of certain items early in the season; and more importantly if the chosen outfit is available in the searcher’s size. Otherwise, one must make sure the person who has caught one’s attention is indeed single as well as at least slightly interested in the person wanting that information is.
The next step in the road of shopping is paying a visit to the dressing room in order to try on what one has chosen. This is not always a pleasant trip since in the process one might find that the different pieces that make up the outfit are not as perfectly fitting as one judged them on the window. One might, in fact, like pieces of that outfit. At the same time, there might be other pieces that we do not like at all. Parts of that outfit might make us look gorgeous while others make us look hideous. The question to face then becomes what to do if the outfit is not so perfect after all? That inquiry is not so easy to answer when the subject that raised it happens to be a person. When we think we have found the perfect object in which to focus on affection, we simply set up a date. Such event is the equivalent of the visit to the dressing room. During the date one attempts with the best effort to become acquainted with the other person; who to our dismay more often than not turns out to be not as wonderful as we first judged. There might, in fact, be certain characteristics that we absolutely find as reasons to be devoted that person while there might be others which we encounter as outrageously unacceptable. The interrogative appears again: what to do in those instances? One must begin the search again, as we do with the outfit.
One then comes across a new difficulty: buy the outfit if one does like it or begin a relationship if the former applies to that special person. If one chooses to take the outfit home, by not means does that imply the outfit was in fact perfect, rather it was perfect for the one who bought it. One wears the outfit, but in the process the outfit suffers minor changes that prevent one from wearing it subsequently. In the same way, the person one chooses to be in a relationship with at first seems to be great. But one might begin to discover certain other traits that one does not like about that person and as a result consider a drastic measure although one usually endures in hopes that one might be wrong or that change will come about. However, one often finds that the person we have chosen also tends to suffer alterations or make mistakes. Such events might prompt us to end the relationship. Some people believe in second chances, but outfits should never be worn after one has realized they have a defect.
It seems then, the only way to find the perfect outfit is to have it tailored and meticulously cared for. Nevertheless, the secret to find our one impeccable love is simply to keep trying because love is not custom made... yet. It should enjoy, however, customized care.

xoxo,
Poison Drops

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