The Circus is coming to Town!

The circus has always been acclaimed for its simple, yet effective ways of entertaining people from all ages. Hundreds of people are involved in the preparation of a single performance through the many hours, which are necessary for the planning. In the same way, the amount of money that is invested in a circus is plenty. The presentations are planed with meticulous details. However, the circus has a rival for the best show in town: a wedding ceremony. One only needs to consider the time and money required to plan a wedding along with the people who take part on the wedding, and the details of the reception in order for one to realize the kind of show a wedding is. The only difficulty is that on a wedding the star of the show is not the lion trainer nor the trapezists, but those who steal the show are the clowns.
It is not clear why there is a need to publicly display the meaning two people have for each other. Nevertheless, however difficult to grasp many people find it necessary to sign a legal document, and in many cases have a religious celebration, as well as offer a reception for people to be witnesses of the affection they privately proclaim for each other. This need seems to arise from a desire to ensure that said affection will endure.
The beginning of it all is the socially constructed idea of the glamorous wedding reception that many people learn to desire. The characteristics of what a wedding reception should be like have been molded into acquiring alluring motifs. The engagement is a parallel to the opening act of the show. It is a common practice for the man to make a wedding proposal to the woman, which is symbolized by the gifting of a ring. In the circus the master of ceremony introduces what is to come. In the case of the proposal, the ring and the way in which the proposal is made is a sort of way to forecast what can be expected at the wedding.
After the engagement has been made official, the planning begins. This is obviously a stage that in the circus performance occurs prior to the opening act, yet the planning is still arduous. A color scheme must be chosen for the flowers, table settings, and bridesmaids’ dresses, among other things. The circus also has a sort of theme to be followed at every presentation. Then, invitations must be sent to family and friends through a cautious selection in order to ensure that only those people that one truly wants in attendance are invited and not those whom one would not wish to see at the reception. At the same time, one should also carefully choose those who will participate in the wedding itself. Such selection is also done in the circus when those who will participate in the performance are selected in order to ensure it will be flawless.
Then, the ceremony takes places in most cases beginning with a religious celebration. If any, after the religious celebration, the wedding guests arrive at the reception where the wedding party greets them. Then, they are offered dinner. The maid of honor and the best man toast the newly weds. Shortly after, the cake is cut, and the throwing of the flower bouquet by the bride, which is falling out of practice, also occurs. If a dance has been provided, the groom and the bride dance with their parents, then with the maid of honor and the best man. After such dance, they rejoin to dance together. There is a hierarchy of who is allowed to follow in the dance floor until everyone in attendance is permitted to do so. In the circus, there is also a hierarchy of acts to be followed.
Although weddings and circus shows are different in kind, both have a carefully devised protocol. The reasons for a circus performance to be meticulously prepared become clear with the response of the public to the different parts of the presentation. As for a wedding, however, those in attendance will never be pleased. At the end of the reception, it will be drastically criticized. There is, precisely for that reason, a difficulty in understanding why is there a public showcase of what two people say to feel for each other. But rather easy to be aware why the clowns are the monarchs of the show.

xoxo,
Poison Drops


©Copyrighted 2009

A Criminal Affair

There are some people who thoroughly enjoy surprises to the point that makes their bones shiver. They live for the surprises they receive while many other people detest surprises with the same passion of those who enjoy them. Nevertheless, a surprise is a detail in everyone’s existence that is supposed to make life more enjoyable due to its precisely self-explanatory nature. It is an opportunity to showcase one’s creativity. But it only functions when the receiver does not expect it. It is important to point out the different between detesting surprises and expecting surprises. The former do not like to receive them, the latter enjoy knowing in advance that there will be one. Then, there are those other people who expect surprises. Of course, at that point the surprise loses its magic even though it remains a surprise. Relationships are a special case of this phenomenon. Many people reach the point in their relationships at which they expect the object of their affection to do something for them as a form of showing their proclaimed affection in special occasions such as birthdays, anniversary, Valentine’s day, Christmas and any other day that has a special significance for both even though more than likely only one of them remembers. There is a widely spread trend that has sent the element of surprise in a journey from which it seems to have vowed for never returning.
Surprise has left, but its destination is unknown. How such event took place remains a mystery. It is difficult to deduce after how long of being in a relationship do people arrive at the conclusion that they have the right to expect certain things from their partners. Especially difficult is then the task of reconstructing a series of events that would lead those people to said conclusion. Such event is an act of murder against romance. Surprises make a relationship sparkle. When a surprise is receive, one is strangely reminded of the reason why one has chosen that person to be part of one’s life, even if such is temporary. It is a challenge to discover why some people would want to destroy that spark. Yet, there are many, who believe that after having been in a relationship for a certain amount of time, which varies according to who is asked, one has the right to expectation. There are still many who do not question the idea that there must exist that element of surprise in a relationship in order to make it enduring because they understand the deeply embedded role creativity plays.
Romance is abstract and subjective, but it implies an artistic expression of one’s fascination for the object of one’s affection in the case of a relationship. Otherwise it simply is an artistic expression of one’s creativity. As such it implies the freedom to be creative when the choice of showing said affection in especial occasions presents itself. Although the element of surprise does not seem as important part of a relationship as one might at first think, it actually has an important purpose. However, if one cannot longer rely on the element of surprise for such events, romance has failed to play a role in the relationship. Thus, people who believe they have the right to expectation have killed romance. They have extinguished the spark that kept the relationship alive.
It is only too late that one realizes that spark has stopped burning. By that time, expectation has eradicated any trace of the so-called uniqueness of a relationship and makes the romance that still remains ironic. Surprises do not matter anymore. At this point, surprises become optional and, as such, not essential as nurture to the relationship. The main problem raised by this situation is that the relationship becomes a routine because creativity is not allowed to work its magic. Incredibly enough, some people are perfectly satisfied with such situation because custom has become stronger than love.
There are those people who prefer to refrain from expectation because they deem such practice as a waste of time and energy that might be used for more important tasks. Views change with the person expressing them, but at the end most agree that a surprise is not a surprise if one already knows what it will be. In the same way, most people do not consider the fact that expecting something also nullifies the surprise. Yet, the most important detail to remember is that those who do not expect anything are fortunate because they will never be disappointed.


xoxo,
Poison Drops


©Copyrighted 2009

Illegal Results of Education

Segregation is an illegal practice throughout most of the world; and, as such, there are many laws that protect people from suffering said fate. However, the segregation that seems to be the subject of those laws is of racial nature even though such segregation is not the only one people experience. The most notorious one being that caused by the difference in education attainment levels. Education, as a system, does not only educate people, as one would tautologically claim, rather its effects are far more complicated and appalling. Education segregates people in the most unrecognized, yet definite way.
The first stage of the problem begins with the fact that not everyone has the opportunity to attain a college level education. Attending a university is not an opportunity everyone enjoys. Then, the problem is exacerbated by the lack of ambition from many of those who have the opportunity to attend such institutions. However, the problem feeds off of the changes education brings about. Education changes the way people appreciate and observe the world through simply changing the way they think.
The world is such a plain place without the benefit or detriment of education. After one has experience higher education, however, the world becomes a completely different place. It is not longer simple rather it becomes very complicated. Every observation becomes detailed and is meticulously analyzed because there is an urge to discover a meaning beyond what the senses provide. This challenge is first experienced during college, any education before is of a more general sense such that the puzzles there observed do not have many consequences due to the simplicity of the courses.
Elementary education is precisely of such basic nature that the children are at that time much more interested in the time they are given as recess than they are on what they learned in the classroom. There are, of course, exceptions to this rule. There are those children who at an early age learn the importance education has in their lives and they strive to acquire the knowledge their teachers offer them. As children progress through the education system, their mentality changes. But as a result of the many physical and psychological changes they experience, most fail to realize the intellectual change that is also taking place. Unfortunately, if not recognized, such important change is not fed and it eventually perishes. It abandons its objective of creating a well-rounded individual who can face the twisted world one inhabits.
University education, nevertheless, has the biggest impact on this modification to human knowledge. If the transformation experience in the early years of one’s life is properly attended to, one will, first, find a way in which to attend an institution that will provide a higher level of education despite the superficial impossibility of doing so. In this way, education becomes an issue of a certain choice. If one truly desires such learning experience and what it brings about, one will procure it. The wisdom then obtained is not necessarily the wisdom one had expected to come across when one first walked through campus. Conversely, one learns that the world is a cruel place and that one will struggle unless one is at the top position in whatever one decides to do after one has received a diploma. In the mean time, this new education alters not only physical appearance since one struggles to be more of a college student, to leave behind the rich past from which one emerged in order to be accepted in the academic sphere, but it also revolutionizes one’s views and thoughts about the world and the people who inhabit it. It becomes so deeply embedded that one’s vocabulary learns to accommodate itself according to the occasion and the people one interacts with. Those who are college educated then become a segregated group with visions of what the world should be like. They criticize the world’s every detail, but fail to admire and complete a project, which would allow for real change. Through them, the problem they attempted to solve roots itself more deeply as they find themselves benefited by the system they once wished to dismantle.
Education creates an invisible barrier between those who know and those who do not even without a definition of such knowledge. It creates a new form of segregation, which it encourages and propagates. As such, education is useless because it bends itself into becoming one more tool of oppression even if liberation remains undefined.

xoxo,
Poison Drops


©Copyrighted 2009

Disguised Lion

It is widely said that the lion is not as painted which seems to complicate identifying them in a metaphorical sense. Such distinction becomes more difficult when the lion exists in disguise as a lamb. There are many people who fit said description. In fact, there are too many that they blend with the rest of the human population such that their wrongdoings become more easily ignored. The case in point is whether cheating and lying are ever acceptable in a romantic relationship (since the other types of relationships and life in general, seem to require at times a so called white lie for better results so long as these are positive).
From the perspective of the cheater, it seems to be the case that cheating should be, if not acceptable, at least excusable. In this theory it is believed that lying is more difficult than cheating as a result of the measured effort one places on either activity. There is a well-known argument for cheating that rests on the assumption that the flesh is weak. However, it also seems to be the case, when one accepts such assertion, that the mind is then not strong enough to control the misguided desires of the flesh. If the mind knows the flesh’s actions will be unjustifiable, and, as a result, unacceptable, then it should not refrain from acting in such a way that would prevent the latter’s weaknesses from materializing. Thus, the flesh appears to be stronger than the mind judging from who has the upper hand when making such decisions as cheating and lying which is supported by the fact that it is harder to lie. The mind is faced with the problem of devising a lie that would be believable to itself first in order to make the person to whom it will be told believe it as well. This is required in order to make the lie real so as to prevent the other person from suspecting it a lie. The cheater is then faced with the problem of how to conceal the action committed. The mind has to suppress the past up to the point where it accepts that it never happened so as to create an acceptable excuse for cheating in order to make the other person believe that it truly never happened as well.
Although nearly innumerable, boredom along with the lack of something that seemed to have been there before are the most broadly quoted as reasons why people cheat. But if that is the case, then why do cheaters remain in a relationship of which they are bored and which lacks something that is obviously important to them. The answer: custom is stronger than love. Most importantly, however, people want security and stability, which are more easily measured and observed than the idea of love that is used as reason to cheat rather than being accepted as an excuse. Hence, the unwillingness cheaters exhibit to relinquish it, and subsequent reason for the return to the boring relationship.
On the other hand, there is the victim, otherwise known as real lamb, who laments the way the situation occurred, but does not necessarily attempt to change it. Perhaps this is due to the different reactions people have as far as coping with the truth. However, it seems more plausible to think that the reason many accept what has happened is because they believe that cheating is emotional and not physical. Hence, the would-be victim dismisses it. Since lying and cheating cover a wide range of actions, everyone becomes a hypocritical victim. Then, everyone cheats or lies whether physically or emotionally. The reason for a victim to remain with the victimizer is perhaps due to hope that the other person would be as forgiving as they are when the truth about them is known as well. But there is also the factor that some people have such low self-esteem that they believe there would not be anyone else who would want them.
The infamous second chance, nevertheless, is what every actor in the play wants to achieve. There is the hope from both parties that if the first attempt was ruined by some mistake, then the second time something would be learned from said mistake and the performance would be impeccable. The truth is that people know the lamb might be a lion in disguise hence the flawed performance, but they are afraid of loneliness so they ignore the disguise and continue to hope.

xoxo,
Poison Drops


©Copyrighted 2009

Crossroads

There is always a point in time when one needs to make a choice. Whether implicit or explicit or whether many options present themselves or not, a choice must always be made. Said choices are not necessarily between two similar things, at times the choice must be made between two very different things. One is sometimes forced to sacrifice something in order to obtain something else. The choices one has are nonetheless innumerable because as it is said every head is a world.
As a child, one always chooses more unconsciously whether to play outside, inside or do homework. But those are vain choices because at that time we are not yet conscious of the choices that truly matter. One’s parents are the ones who make the important choices when one is still young. In such a way, however, one grows into being responsible enough to make one’s own choices. As much as one spends the early years wishing one could choose, when that age is finally reached, it is not so pleasant.
A choice always involves options that one must weight in order to decide which of the options is less worthy. One must decide what is necessary and what is worth relinquishing so as to acquire or conserve the other. The choices that are present in everyone’s lives are of general nature that then fall into specifics depending on the situation such that involve more often than not stability and security in its different variations. It could be medical whether physical or psychological, financial, romantic, or personal such that family and friends could be affected.
Health is indeed the most important factor one has to manage. Whether physical or psychological one must always put health first since as it is well known without good health one cannot really have much else. The problem this choice arises is that one often forgets about psychological health and focuses completely on the physical. Perhaps such is due to the more easily observable poor state of the body, but is should not be an excuse to neglect one’s psychological well being. Both are important in the scheme of a healthy life. One should not choose between one and the other, rather place them in the same category because they are parts of a whole.
Financial matters are always important as well since without financial stability one must sometimes forego other important things. But financial choices are made at an early stage in life when one is not actually conscious of making said choice, at least many people are not. One chooses to stay in school and figure out how to afford such luxury in this selfish world in order to improve one’s condition in the future. One might contrarily choose to abandon school but find another way to be financial stable, which seems to work occasionally. It is not relevant how one achieves financial security so long as it is through a legal way otherwise one faces other important choices of legal consequence.
The choice everyone seems to be constantly facing is a romantic choice that involves the love that already exists in their lives or the lack thereof. Many seem to place this factor of their lives at the top of the list due to fear of loneliness. It is understandable because one is always surrounded by people thus the need to have someone at one’s side for the better part of one’s life, but such does not excuse neglecting other equally or more important factors that seem to suffer at the mercy of whatever this romantic choice results to be.
However, choosing is not as easy as it might seem when the choice is first presented. All the categories involved in acquiring security and stability are intertwined, thus creating a difficulty for the decision making process. Hence the need to consider the secondary effects a choice could have in other aspects of one’s life as well as how said choice could affect one’s family and friends.
Yet, a choice is always personal. Options and opinions can be heard, but the only responsible person for the choice made is the one making it. The rest are only spectators. However significant the choice, one must always choose since it does not make a difference how intensely one tries one cannot have two glories. A choice must be made as to which one is more important because there are not any two things worth the same. It is always one or the other.


xoxo,
Poison Drops


©Copyrighted 2009

Sensing the Feel of Life

The feelings experienced are more often than not intertwined with what the senses provided when evidence of being alive is required. If a signal reaches the brain from one of the five senses, it is taken as a proof of life. At the same time, one’s feelings also send signals to the brain that serve the same purpose. Although the signals seem to produce the same effect, they are rather different. Then one must face the inquiry of how does one know whether one is alive or not. Such is due to the difference between living an existing. Everyone exists as it is obvious, but very few people actually live. Here is then where the difference between those signals sent by the senses and those sent by feelings is so important. The signals received by the brain from the senses tell the body that one continues to exist whereas those that are received as a result of a certain feeling one experiences remind the body that one is alive.
The sense are only able to report the existence of someone due to their capacities are very limited as is their number. There are only five senses, which only allows a certain reach into the world; and, said limitation prevents them from reporting of the state of living of the individual in question. Through the senses one is able to experience the world in its most simple form.
One can hear the world. There are too many sounds at once for one to be able to discern specifics, however, one is still capable of knowing the different sounds there are. The sounds range from the simple sound of the wind makes on a split second when it is passing by on its way through when it is traveling the around the world, and, the sound the ocean makes when it is in rage or when it is calm to the sounds animals makes in order to send a message about the dangers that approach, passing through the sounds that can be heard in industrial cities… and, then there is silence. The view of the world is equally fantastic at times and very disturbing at others. One learns to enjoy what is pleasurable to the sight, which varies greatly since the same things do not please everyone. At the same time, one also sees other landscapes and images that are not amiable to the eyes, thus one tends to ignore them or tries to. Not necessarily a solution since as a result of such action many problems in the world remain.
One can also smell and taste the world. The odors to which one is subject when walking through the world are very numerous, some are pleasant others are disgusting but that is only normal since not everything can be pleasing. The same occurs with the things one tastes. Sometimes one is pleased with the choice made; others one might regret it since the palate was not comfortable. Then there is the power of touch. It is indeed another sense that provides for evidence of existence because one can touch the world as simple as that. The world is there for one to enjoy, the change, to improve, to touch…
Contrary to what this evidence might prove, in order to be alive one needs more than what the senses provide. One needs to be able to feel something when the senses are active and even when they rest. Hence, there are feelings and emotions to account for life. One is alive when one is capable of feeling anger, sadness, happiness, love and even stress, etc. Said emotions are a proof of one’s life because they are not superficial as is the evidence they take from the senses. Even though the senses supply the necessary data for the existence of life, they alone cannot serve as a sign of life. There are many individuals whose senses are still active, yet they cannot feel anything and all there is left for them is to fall in a deep and eternal sleep. If one is not longer able to feel sad or angry or happy and exhibit the signs of such feelings, then one is not really alive but merely existing as one more object in the world.
Life is a possession everyone believes to own, but living is much more than having a space on earth. Life is not hearing, seeing, smelling, tasting or touching, life is feeling…

xoxo,
Poison Drops


©Copyrighted 2009

Near Life Experience

Despite what is thought by many, there is only one chance given to each individual. There is, however, a certain influence that can be exerted to make that one chance last for as long as one exists. It can give one the motivation to live. But it can also take away all of one’s essence and never return it. Nonetheless, there is the choice whether one takes the right one or not is something one cannot predict until it has happened already; from there after, it becomes entirely one’s responsibility.
The sunlight was as bright as it can possibly be. The grass was of a beautiful green; I could not resist lying on it. I was enjoying myself as the sunrays caressed my skin. Then, suddenly I felt that I was falling into an abysm. I could really tell that it was infinite; there was not any doubt in my mind about it. Falling was as if I was in a free falling previous to opening a parachute, and I was part of the air around me rather than being myself. After a while, I noticed that what was my body had become something immaterial. It wasn’t real anymore; or it was not there anymore. Invisible, untouchable, nonexistent in the realm of reality, gone, nonetheless, somehow it was still there alive and more powerful than ever before. I could not feel it existing yet I felt how struck something softer than cotton. I could not think. Whatever was going on was unexplainable though enjoyable and it stayed that way.
After I felt my body touching the cotton like bed, I woke up. I was not longer in the grass, however. I turned everywhere and all I was able to see was a white gaseous substance going around an enormous hall. To add to my surprise, I was on the floor. It appeared just like normal floor except that it was the softest thing I have ever touched. I wanted to stand on my feet and run around to see what else was there in that unrecognizable dimension. But all I could do was look not move. Suddenly, I felt as if someone had grabbed me and in that instant my essence had been taken away without giving me time to notice, and I was unable to prevent it. At that moment I was completely gone and incapable of distinguishing whether I was or had been. Where I was and where I was not? I do not know. All I know is that the place where my remains could be found at that particular instant was somewhere in the middle of nowhere and in the center of everything.
I saw many bright colors around me and there, as if those colors were just a flash of light passing by, I was able to only see a bright white light. The white was a cover for all the colors that were hiding from my eyes, but that somehow I was still able to distinguish under the white blanket that covered them. I also heard many voices calling me simultaneously from every direction. That was something I had never experienced before. I did not quite recognize the voices, but at the same time they were very familiar; I felt the need to answer their call in some way or another.
There I was inside the chaos for the first time in my existence, able to identify real peace. I felt as if there was not any conflict between my thoughts and my desires. Reason and passion became one. Peace alone was left.
Suddenly, I closed my eyes in a place that I was visiting for the first time, but when I opened them, I was back in the grass looking at the blue sky. Such experience is unexplainable and it has become unattainable.
The question then becomes how to make that experience last for as long as one can even when others cannot understand. There is the challenge. One is the only one able to make or break oneself, thus one’s experiences are what one makes of them. Only one can decide what effect they will have on one’s existence upon their occurrence; and what will happen after one has been through one of those important events. When one knows that besides existing in this monotonous universe, one can also live in one’s own world, sometimes. But it is always one’s choice when, where, why, how and with whom one does so.

xoxo,
Poison Drops


©Copyrighted 2009

Occasional Miracles

There seem to be unwritten rules and instructions on the how to charm a person. These rules, however, vary so much that they have become unrecognizable in the present day. Some people seem to believe that anything will do, but that is not the case. There are extreme cases when people reach a level of creativity unknown until then in order to charm someone that has called their attention but who does not seem to noticed them. Then, there are the other cases of those who believe that only occasional miracles will do. If the method of the former is bound to work at some point if only to later find out that the relationship did not work, the method of the latter also works and more often than not leads to a longer lasting relationship. There seems to be a contradiction within the very idea of such events, but the reasons are unknown. It is difficult to reach a consensus on whether occasional miracles are enough o charm someone because in theory they should not be and so do many people believe, but in practice the results are very different.
In the case of those who put their every effort in to charming someone, it is quite difficult to figure out why the victim, in other words the one to be charmed, does not fall for the tricks. However, it might becoming somewhat clearer why this method does not work if one analyzes the fact that some people feel suffocated when someone is around them literally or figuratively at all times. It is true that people cherish attention, but that does not necessarily mean that they want to be under the spotlight at all times. There are those who enjoy this sort of thing, which is why this method of overly straining oneself to charm someone else tends to work on certain people. Some people might even feel as if the other person is trying to control them because this person that seems so interested appears to have all tricks under the sleeve and there is not any possible way to escape their reach. Lastly, perhaps most important is the fact that it does not seem natural that someone would try so hard to charm someone. Usually people realize whether their tricks will work in order to continue trying, otherwise they move on.
On the other extreme are those who simply do not try or at least make it seem as if they are not. This method as absurd as it might seem, appears to have better results than the aforementioned. People respond to cravings. This is perhaps one of the reasons that this method of the occasional miracles has positive results. If someone that is there or had a neat detail towards someone else, then all of a sudden this person disappears, might cause the victim, again the person to be charmed, to want more attention or another one of those details that show that person still cares. As mentioned earlier, people like attention and if suddenly they do not have it, then they enter a sort of chaotic state. Thus, some people conform to those occasional miracles because that is the only source of attention they receive. For others those miracles might be enough, but because due to how sporadically they occur, these people are left with the idea that if even this person one comes around every so often, then certainly there won’t be anybody else who would. But then again, details do matter; and, if that is all someone is receiving, then they perhaps carry extra weight.
Then, there does not seem to be a clear answer as to what is the correct method as to how to charm someone. The best guess is perhaps that every person functions in a different way and what might work for someone might not work for someone else in the same way that what works one day might not work the next. The idea of having a mixture of both tricks is possibly the best choice. In this way, the person doing the charming can show that they truly care about the other person, but without the latter feeling on the verge of asphyxiation.
Occasional miracles are like lays because one cannot have only one. But if one has too many without control, then the consequences might be rather unexpected, and not necessarily the premium results one expected when one had the first one.

xoxo,
Poison Drops


©Copyrighted 2009