A Criminal Affair

There are some people who thoroughly enjoy surprises to the point that makes their bones shiver. They live for the surprises they receive while many other people detest surprises with the same passion of those who enjoy them. Nevertheless, a surprise is a detail in everyone’s existence that is supposed to make life more enjoyable due to its precisely self-explanatory nature. It is an opportunity to showcase one’s creativity. But it only functions when the receiver does not expect it. It is important to point out the different between detesting surprises and expecting surprises. The former do not like to receive them, the latter enjoy knowing in advance that there will be one. Then, there are those other people who expect surprises. Of course, at that point the surprise loses its magic even though it remains a surprise. Relationships are a special case of this phenomenon. Many people reach the point in their relationships at which they expect the object of their affection to do something for them as a form of showing their proclaimed affection in special occasions such as birthdays, anniversary, Valentine’s day, Christmas and any other day that has a special significance for both even though more than likely only one of them remembers. There is a widely spread trend that has sent the element of surprise in a journey from which it seems to have vowed for never returning.
Surprise has left, but its destination is unknown. How such event took place remains a mystery. It is difficult to deduce after how long of being in a relationship do people arrive at the conclusion that they have the right to expect certain things from their partners. Especially difficult is then the task of reconstructing a series of events that would lead those people to said conclusion. Such event is an act of murder against romance. Surprises make a relationship sparkle. When a surprise is receive, one is strangely reminded of the reason why one has chosen that person to be part of one’s life, even if such is temporary. It is a challenge to discover why some people would want to destroy that spark. Yet, there are many, who believe that after having been in a relationship for a certain amount of time, which varies according to who is asked, one has the right to expectation. There are still many who do not question the idea that there must exist that element of surprise in a relationship in order to make it enduring because they understand the deeply embedded role creativity plays.
Romance is abstract and subjective, but it implies an artistic expression of one’s fascination for the object of one’s affection in the case of a relationship. Otherwise it simply is an artistic expression of one’s creativity. As such it implies the freedom to be creative when the choice of showing said affection in especial occasions presents itself. Although the element of surprise does not seem as important part of a relationship as one might at first think, it actually has an important purpose. However, if one cannot longer rely on the element of surprise for such events, romance has failed to play a role in the relationship. Thus, people who believe they have the right to expectation have killed romance. They have extinguished the spark that kept the relationship alive.
It is only too late that one realizes that spark has stopped burning. By that time, expectation has eradicated any trace of the so-called uniqueness of a relationship and makes the romance that still remains ironic. Surprises do not matter anymore. At this point, surprises become optional and, as such, not essential as nurture to the relationship. The main problem raised by this situation is that the relationship becomes a routine because creativity is not allowed to work its magic. Incredibly enough, some people are perfectly satisfied with such situation because custom has become stronger than love.
There are those people who prefer to refrain from expectation because they deem such practice as a waste of time and energy that might be used for more important tasks. Views change with the person expressing them, but at the end most agree that a surprise is not a surprise if one already knows what it will be. In the same way, most people do not consider the fact that expecting something also nullifies the surprise. Yet, the most important detail to remember is that those who do not expect anything are fortunate because they will never be disappointed.


xoxo,
Poison Drops


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