Disguised Lion

It is widely said that the lion is not as painted which seems to complicate identifying them in a metaphorical sense. Such distinction becomes more difficult when the lion exists in disguise as a lamb. There are many people who fit said description. In fact, there are too many that they blend with the rest of the human population such that their wrongdoings become more easily ignored. The case in point is whether cheating and lying are ever acceptable in a romantic relationship (since the other types of relationships and life in general, seem to require at times a so called white lie for better results so long as these are positive).
From the perspective of the cheater, it seems to be the case that cheating should be, if not acceptable, at least excusable. In this theory it is believed that lying is more difficult than cheating as a result of the measured effort one places on either activity. There is a well-known argument for cheating that rests on the assumption that the flesh is weak. However, it also seems to be the case, when one accepts such assertion, that the mind is then not strong enough to control the misguided desires of the flesh. If the mind knows the flesh’s actions will be unjustifiable, and, as a result, unacceptable, then it should not refrain from acting in such a way that would prevent the latter’s weaknesses from materializing. Thus, the flesh appears to be stronger than the mind judging from who has the upper hand when making such decisions as cheating and lying which is supported by the fact that it is harder to lie. The mind is faced with the problem of devising a lie that would be believable to itself first in order to make the person to whom it will be told believe it as well. This is required in order to make the lie real so as to prevent the other person from suspecting it a lie. The cheater is then faced with the problem of how to conceal the action committed. The mind has to suppress the past up to the point where it accepts that it never happened so as to create an acceptable excuse for cheating in order to make the other person believe that it truly never happened as well.
Although nearly innumerable, boredom along with the lack of something that seemed to have been there before are the most broadly quoted as reasons why people cheat. But if that is the case, then why do cheaters remain in a relationship of which they are bored and which lacks something that is obviously important to them. The answer: custom is stronger than love. Most importantly, however, people want security and stability, which are more easily measured and observed than the idea of love that is used as reason to cheat rather than being accepted as an excuse. Hence, the unwillingness cheaters exhibit to relinquish it, and subsequent reason for the return to the boring relationship.
On the other hand, there is the victim, otherwise known as real lamb, who laments the way the situation occurred, but does not necessarily attempt to change it. Perhaps this is due to the different reactions people have as far as coping with the truth. However, it seems more plausible to think that the reason many accept what has happened is because they believe that cheating is emotional and not physical. Hence, the would-be victim dismisses it. Since lying and cheating cover a wide range of actions, everyone becomes a hypocritical victim. Then, everyone cheats or lies whether physically or emotionally. The reason for a victim to remain with the victimizer is perhaps due to hope that the other person would be as forgiving as they are when the truth about them is known as well. But there is also the factor that some people have such low self-esteem that they believe there would not be anyone else who would want them.
The infamous second chance, nevertheless, is what every actor in the play wants to achieve. There is the hope from both parties that if the first attempt was ruined by some mistake, then the second time something would be learned from said mistake and the performance would be impeccable. The truth is that people know the lamb might be a lion in disguise hence the flawed performance, but they are afraid of loneliness so they ignore the disguise and continue to hope.

xoxo,
Poison Drops


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