Monday, January 5, 2009

Occasional Miracles

There seem to be unwritten rules and instructions on the how to charm a person. These rules, however, vary so much that they have become unrecognizable in the present day. Some people seem to believe that anything will do, but that is not the case. There are extreme cases when people reach a level of creativity unknown until then in order to charm someone that has called their attention but who does not seem to noticed them. Then, there are the other cases of those who believe that only occasional miracles will do. If the method of the former is bound to work at some point if only to later find out that the relationship did not work, the method of the latter also works and more often than not leads to a longer lasting relationship. There seems to be a contradiction within the very idea of such events, but the reasons are unknown. It is difficult to reach a consensus on whether occasional miracles are enough o charm someone because in theory they should not be and so do many people believe, but in practice the results are very different.
In the case of those who put their every effort in to charming someone, it is quite difficult to figure out why the victim, in other words the one to be charmed, does not fall for the tricks. However, it might becoming somewhat clearer why this method does not work if one analyzes the fact that some people feel suffocated when someone is around them literally or figuratively at all times. It is true that people cherish attention, but that does not necessarily mean that they want to be under the spotlight at all times. There are those who enjoy this sort of thing, which is why this method of overly straining oneself to charm someone else tends to work on certain people. Some people might even feel as if the other person is trying to control them because this person that seems so interested appears to have all tricks under the sleeve and there is not any possible way to escape their reach. Lastly, perhaps most important is the fact that it does not seem natural that someone would try so hard to charm someone. Usually people realize whether their tricks will work in order to continue trying, otherwise they move on.
On the other extreme are those who simply do not try or at least make it seem as if they are not. This method as absurd as it might seem, appears to have better results than the aforementioned. People respond to cravings. This is perhaps one of the reasons that this method of the occasional miracles has positive results. If someone that is there or had a neat detail towards someone else, then all of a sudden this person disappears, might cause the victim, again the person to be charmed, to want more attention or another one of those details that show that person still cares. As mentioned earlier, people like attention and if suddenly they do not have it, then they enter a sort of chaotic state. Thus, some people conform to those occasional miracles because that is the only source of attention they receive. For others those miracles might be enough, but because due to how sporadically they occur, these people are left with the idea that if even this person one comes around every so often, then certainly there won’t be anybody else who would. But then again, details do matter; and, if that is all someone is receiving, then they perhaps carry extra weight.
Then, there does not seem to be a clear answer as to what is the correct method as to how to charm someone. The best guess is perhaps that every person functions in a different way and what might work for someone might not work for someone else in the same way that what works one day might not work the next. The idea of having a mixture of both tricks is possibly the best choice. In this way, the person doing the charming can show that they truly care about the other person, but without the latter feeling on the verge of asphyxiation.
Occasional miracles are like lays because one cannot have only one. But if one has too many without control, then the consequences might be rather unexpected, and not necessarily the premium results one expected when one had the first one.

xoxo,
Poison Drops


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