A New Location

People tend to relocate as part of their nature because there is a need for improvement. The desire for better housing or a better job is the drive. In other cases, moving is due to a negative and unexpected event. But whatever it is that prompts people to move, there is always a known location in which people can be found after they have done so. In that same way, when an object is moved, the new location can always be specified. When an object is lost, however, time and energy are directed towards finding its new locations. Yet, it can be found. So people move from a house to another, or from a city to another city. People change states and even countries. Objects are either relocated or misplaced, but they can be found. But there are other things of which a location cannot be identified. Such is the case with the love someone had at some point in time expressed for someone else and then said love is not there anymore. Where does love go when it is gone?
It is, first and foremost, difficult to say where something that is not material is located which is necessarily the case with love. Then, there is the problem of whether that item actually exists or not. But it does seem as though such things can be lost or placed as parasites on something material in order to be able to locate them. Love does not appear to escape such predicament. There is evidence of this in a recently discovered case. A certain couple that said to be deeply in love after sometime in the relationship decided to buy a dog. The love they felt for each other seems to have been symbolized by the dog. The both took equal care of the dog. It was equally important to both of the as part of their relationship. But as time went by they seemed to realize that the relationship was not working properly, or how they thought it should have been. Neither of them wanted to keep the dog, perhaps because it would be too painful to take care of a creature that had so united them. The dog was then gifted, and neither of them ever saw it again. When of the parties involved in such story was asked where the love went, the response was: wherever the dog is. This seems completely unacceptable because it would mean that the love they felt for each other relied on the presence of the dog and not on each other.
It is superficially simple to understand that the love did not die. The love remained, it just moved. But it is also rather complicated to accept that the love moved to wherever the dog went. One begins to wonder how to describe the love these two people felt for each other if it can be placed in another creature and sent away. It seems impossible that such possibility can be materialized. There are many couples that never have anything that can, in fact, be sent away in order for their love to move to another location; and, as a result, leave them in peace. Some people claim that it hurts so much live after they lose someone they loved, that living is unmanageable. But they forget that before they met that person their life went along just fine. So if love moves, then their life should be able to continue just as well considering that it has previously moved into their lives and that was also disturbing. Yet, they managed to live with that situation. The same way it becomes difficult to understand two people that shared everything come to a point in life where they do not even see each other from far away and life goes on. Perhaps because the question should be how two people that did not know each other came to share everything. Was it love or was it something else? If it can relocate, then perhaps is because it was never really there.
As Oscar Wilde said, “the only difference between a caprice and everlasting love is that a caprice lasts longer.” The problem is that most people assert that real love is eternal. Other people are smarter and instead of wondering whether love moved, they simply build a bridge and get over it as soon as the fall out happens. So love does not move: people do. They move on.


xoxo,
Poison Drops


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